Not unlike Lamar Odom and Kanye West, Hip-Hop dating coach “Yo! Jeff” Carroll is a vocal supporter of the prenup. But he took it a step farther on his national Stop the GAME! Tour at Maryland’s Salisbury University two weeks ago, when he broke out the “Pre-pre-nup.”
It’s actually not a legal document, but a way to get younger heads, especially young women, to take control of their romantic relationships. He says the idea is to set the terms of your involvement, instead of leaving up to chance important issues like sexual exclusivity. The Pre-pre-nup spells out conditions like “only have sex with me,” and “include me in your activities.”
Before an audience of about 50 undergrad students, Jeff also talked about STDs, rape and heartbreak, but he kept a light touch. “I want [the students] to have an introduction to [proper] dating,” he said, because “this is probably something they didn’t talk to their parents about.”
Carroll passed out his “10 Hip-Hop Dating Codes,” which include rules like no cheating and define the relationship. “The Player Hater List,” Carroll’s tips for avoiding users and fakes, also made the rounds.
Carroll gave his first talk at Kean University in New Jersey and, sensing the need for greater dialogue, expanded his tour from there. Carroll is co-author of “20 Soul Questions” with his wife, Nivia Binett-Carroll. They wrote the book to help initiate deep conversations about important issues between partners.
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